When your child has behavior problems, you need to use discipline in the right way, otherwise, you could be setting your child up for a lifetime of problems. Most doctors now agree that physically disciplining a child is not the right way to approach behavior problems. Spanking will make your toddler fear and distrust you. As frustrated and tempted as you may feel to spank your toddler at times, there are many better and more constructive ways to teach your him or her right from wrong.

The first thing to remember is that your child learns from and copies your behavior. If you don't want your child to raise his or her voice in anger, then don't raise yours. If you want your child to chew with his or her mouth closed, then model this behavior for him or her. If you want your child to say please and thank you, then make sure he or she hears you saying it whenever it is appropriate. This principle can be applied to many situations. By being a good model for your child to follow, you will be practicing what you preach, and using the most powerful method for teaching your toddler how to conduct him or herself.

When your toddler does something wrong, no matter how infuriating it may be, you need to learn to control your anger. You must correct their behavior in a calm manner. Also, don't give your child too much attention when he or she does something wrong, since this might be exactly what they are after, so in the process of giving them attention, you are inadvertently rewarding them.

Minimize the amount of times you have to say "no", or correct behavior by making sure your home is completely safe and child proofed. Do not put expensive, breakable items within his or her reach, or you are asking for trouble. Provide toys and distractions in adult areas such as the kitchen, so that your toddler will give you a spare moment to prepare food.

If your toddler is really acting out and making a scene, it may be time for a "time out". For example, you can tell them to sit in a chair quietly and have them do that for several minutes until they have calmed down. This can often help if there is arguing between siblings.

As your child is learning how to do something, make it easier for him or her by breaking it up into smaller tasks. Set up routines and stick to them, since toddlers prefer predictability. Also remember that you may have to repeat things many times until it finally sinks in. Toddlers have a lot to learn, so be patient, and eventually they will learn right from wrong. If your child is anxious or fearful of something, then demonstrate that it is safe. Use a soothing, warm voice to make them feel secure. A familiar object such as a blanket or stuffed animal can also reduce anxiety.

Make sure that your child is getting proper nutrition, exercise, and enough sleep. If your child is getting short changed in any of these areas, it could explain his or her difficult behavior. If your toddler's unruly behavior continues despite following the advice above, and he or she has trouble following your instructions, then you may want to contact a doctor, since there could be a learning disability, or other problem.